Sunday November 8, 2009 Each day goes by so fast because I want to spend as much time
as possible being with Mama. I'm trying to keep a cheerful disposition, so life seems as normal as possible for Mama. Each day is so much different from the day before. Each hour is so much different from the hour before. One hour/day is good and the next hour/day is bad. I go from thinking
that he only has a few more days, to he may have a few more months. Mama is still hanging in there and he's in God's hands now.
He seems to be comfortable and free from physical pain. I'm sure he's suffering
mental pain since he doesn't understand why his life has changed like this. I
can tell that he's frightened by the little cricket sounds he makes. We are enjoying a LOT of quality time together
and Mama is still playing with his toys. He loves to chew paper so he gets a
different color each day to rip apart. He also enjoys playing with feathers that
have molted. Since I've saved most of his longer wing and tail feathers, he gets
a new one each day and shreds it until the feather looks like pieces of hay. I am very grateful
that Mama is still enjoying his life. I spend most of the day, sitting by his
cage, petting, talking, and whistling to him his favorite songs. He doesn't sing
too much and sometimes he still taps on his food dish and I tap back on the
kitchen table. We both received an unexpected blessing. As I was changing cage
papers last night, he climbed up onto my hand and he was able to balance for a
short time. He did the same thing this morning so I cupped the palms of my 2
hands together and he was able to balance fairly well. Poor little guy fell over
onto his right wing when he tried to step off. Hopefully, he is learning how to
compensate for the loss of his right foot so he can come out of the cage more
often. He's still not eating
much, just a few pellets, some broccoli, celery and millet seed, bird bread. I'm
wondering if his poor appetite is related to him being depressed over the
sudden changes in his life. I'm offering him different foods all day long, hoping
he will eat more.
Today he's not having a very good day. He doesn't want me to pet him, he's not very interested in his mirror or his toys and he only had a few nibbles of an Avicake, a piece of egg biscuit and some millet. Still, by tonight, he may be a completely different bird. I have a small picture of the Guardian Angel attached
to the upper bars of his cage and a cute little fabric, country angel hanging on
the outside of his cage. I heard on TV a few days ago, that there is a
program called
"Preaching for Pups." Folks bring in their pets and they are
taught how to love and take care of them. The minister said that "When
there is love between a person and a pet, God is involved". I already knew
this in my heart, but hearing it from somebody else made me feel better. I know that
when our pets pass away, we will see them again when we cross that final bridge
in life. I keep telling Mama not to be afraid to cross that bridge if he needs
to and that we will see each other again someday.
Thursday November 19, 2009, I had to start
administering Mama's medication, directly into his beak last week because he was
eating around the tiny drop of Metacam. This is very stressful for him because I
have to put my hand over his back and pry open his beak. The medicine actually
tastes good because it's sweet. Yes, I did taste it first before giving him the
first dose a few weeks ago. His appetite has not improved but he's still eating.
On Saturday, Mama
started passing bright red blood, and tiny dark blood clots in his droppings.
There's no mistake when determining the difference between a food related color
change in droppings and blood. Blood in droppings on white paper towels look
exactly the same as if you cut your finger and blotted the blood with a paper
towel. The dark blood clots are also bright red, like human blood, if you take a
toothpick and break them apart. Mama's droppings change each day, mostly normal,
but sometimes with blood. I spoke to the avian vet yesterday and she thinks the
bleeding is related to the tumor, since tumors also have blood vessels. The most
serious complication associated with passing blood in droppings is that Mama may
become anemic and very weak. I asked the doctor what death would be like for a
bird with this type of tumor. Thankfully, Mama should not go into convulsions,
which was something I was very worried about. However, he may become too weak to
breath so he may have difficulty breathing the last few days of his life. The
vet now thinks it' only a matter of a few weeks before Mama leaves this world.
We're no longer looking at months. The vet also said Mama no longer has to have
the Metacam, which should make his life much less stressful. I'll only use it if
it's very obvious that he's in pain and suffering. My sweet little angel started
singing his heart out while I was talking to his doctor. Whenever I cry, Mama
always sings to me and this time was no exception. I'm taking Mama out of the
cage at least once a day and placing him on a soft pillow case to help make his
life more enjoyable. (photo with the pumpkin) When he was out yesterday he
wanted me to pet his cheeks and neck for 2 hours.
Sunday November 21, 2009, Yesterday Mama took a turn for the
worst. He was passing blood in almost every dropping--just a little ,but even a
little loss of blood all day, is too much for a bird. I had my coffee with him
like usual, but instead of him coming out onto the kitchen table, I placed one of
the mugs that he loves so much, inside of his cage. The warmth of hot coffee
must feel good against his little head. We've been sharing a "mug" for 15 years.
Mama is next to a mug in so many of the photos I have taken of him over the
years. He just loves to see his reflection in the glossy finish.To be able to share this with him again today
was a blessing. By noon he became very weak and he was sleeping almost all day.
I spent 12 hours sitting next to his cage, stroking his crest and cheeks. He
left his mirror and hobbled over to my face and put his little head in the palm
of my hand. He was so weak he was falling over on his right side. I had to hold
my other hand against his right side, so he wouldn't fall over. His
breathing became labored and he stayed cradled between my 2 hands sleeping for
several hours. He woke up about 5 PM and I made him a fresh batch of brown
rice. He ate quite a bit along and some millet seeds. I defrosted a homemade
corn muffin and gave him a piece the size of a sugar cube. He devoured it and ate 2
more pieces, more brown rice and millet seed late last night. Mama loves
safflower seeds so I hand fed them to him one at a time--he must have eaten at
least a dozen. He seemed stronger after eating and his
breathing returned to normal. He still wants to be close to me, so my head was
inside of his cage all evening. Tonight he was resting his chest and head up
against his mirror, sort of using it like a pillow. I'll probably be up with him all night. At the moment he's sleeping with
his head tucked under his wing--seems like my love and home cooking/baking have
temporarily brought him back from the brink of death. I'm taking pictures of him
so I can always remember that Mama truly knew how much I loved him. This is a
blessing. After 15 years he has gained so much trust in me that he allows both
of my hands to be inside of his cage to comfort him. I also feel blessed
because he walked away from his mirror and chose to be close to me during his
last days on earth. I'm praying that he passes away tonight while he's sleeping.
I don't think he can survive more than a day or two like this, but at least I
know his stomach doesn't hurt and he didn't go to sleep being hungry. When he
doesn't want to eat, I can't eat either.
Tuesday December 1, 2009, Mama's health has continued to deteriorate and the
amount of blood being passed in his droppings has also increased. Mama now looks
very thin and his keel bone is visible, making his chest have the appearance of
a V. He has lost 20 grams over the past month and now weighs only 80 grams.
His appetite is poor and he's only eating seeds, bird bread, Avicakes and some
cooked brown rice. I was so grateful that he was still with me for Thanksgiving.
I rolled out the dough for apple pies right next to his cage while he nibbled on
a thin apple slice. I noticed that he did not make any droppings Friday night. When I picked him up, I could see that there was an enormous
mass of dried droppings, caked over his vent and all of the surrounding
feathers, even though his papers are changed several times a day. I know when he
makes a dropping because he hobbles to the left and right, taking small steps
and his papers are changed immediately. I picked off
as much as I could and tried to clean him with wet gauze, wet paper towels as
well as wet Q-Tips. It wasn't working. I had to put my poor baby's tail
under the faucet with warm water running, to remove the mess. I also plucked out
a dozen tiny down feathers in the process, that's how matted and crusted the
droppings were. After cleaning him, he started passing huge, loose, blackish
dark moss green droppings--it looked like tar but the color was moss green, not
black. I had to keep cleaning his vent and feathers until all of that dark
liquid came out of him. He has been sleeping most of the day since last
Friday. Mama is now very weak and he has reached the stage where he trusts me so
much that he no longer puts up a struggle if I try to pick him up. He has come
to realize that my hands will bring him comfort. I brought my rocking chair
into the kitchen and placed it near his cage. I picked him up and rested
him on my chest, so he could nuzzle under my chin, then slowly rocked him. He
seemed to find comfort in this, because he nuzzled his head against my hand
and dozed as I stroked his cheeks. Tonight Mama hobbled to the back corner of his
cage, near his early Christmas present that I made, a birdie Christmas tree with red and
green munch balls and a red bell. He chewed on the munch ball, ate
a piece of bird bread then fell asleep in the corner. I noticed that he
did not make very many droppings this evening. I'm praying that he's not covered
with another mass of that has to be removed again in the morning.
Thursday Dec.3, 2009, Mama's vent has stayed clean, with no build up of
dried droppings and his droppings returned to normal, no more blood. He's still hanging in tough and fighting to the end. Birds have
a very strong instinct to survive. Perhaps this is because they are so small and
they are such easy targets for predators. If a bird doesn't eat for 48 hours, he becomes very hungry and will usually start
eating anything that is offered. Even though Mama is skinny, weak and sleeping all day, his will to survive is
still strong. Mama has been eating well now in the evenings, for the past few
days, with snacks throughout the day and night--cooked sweet potatoes, lots of
pellets, Beak Appétit, mixed seeds, bird bread, a nibble of pumpkin and apple
pie, graham crackers. He loves pumpkin pie so it warmed my heart to see him
enjoying it again this year. Last night I sat down
next to his cage to eat my dinner with him. He hobbled close to my face. This means one and only one thing--"I
want your food from your mouth and I want it now" and I always say no--here's
your own little plate, but not this time. He ate pasta with tomato sauce
from my lips even though he has refused to eat pasta in any shape or form, for
15 years now. Mouth feeding is a big no no with birds, because of the harmful
bacteria in our mouths, including bacteria related to any bacterial infections
that we may be coming down with. Bacteria from the mouth can make birds sick. So
instead of mouth feeding, I mashed the
pasta with a fork and put it on my lips--not inside of my mouth, for him
to eat. He wanted "mouth to beak" feedings and wouldn't eat the pieces
that fell onto the white paper towels. When I woke up
this morning he was still asleep and he stayed asleep even when the lights were
turned on and I said good morning to him. He opened his eyes when he saw me
bringing the roll of paper towels near his cage. He's very smart and now he
hobbles to the other corner of the cage, so I can change the white paper towels
without having to pick him up. To make changing papers faster, there are 12
layers of paper towels on the bottom of his cage--12 layers in each of the 4
corners--so 48 sheets. To change papers, 3 sheets are removed in the corner that
needs it. Afterwards, he looked at the little calico fabric
angel that has been hanging on the outside of his cage for a few
weeks. He pulled some of the yarn through the cage bars and was chewing on them.
I believe Mama was giving his Guardian Angel a few good hair yanks and
asking, "Hey, did you forget about me?"
Friday Dec. 4, 2009. Mama has now been sleeping for the past 24 hours
in the back corner of his cage, next to his Christmas toy. When I woke up this
morning and said good morning to him, he opened his eyes for a few seconds, then
tucked his head back under his wing to go back to sleep. Even though I stroked
his head and cheeks, he remained asleep. I thought it would be better for him if
I did not disturb him, so he continued to sleep all day long. I sat by his cage
throughout the day, whispering to him and stroking his crest. Sometimes he
allowed me to touch him and other times he would snap at me. In the evening I offered him all of his favorite
foods, but he just went back to sleep. I took him out of the cage and gently
rocked him in my rocking chair for an hour or so. He did enjoy this and found
comfort by being held securely so he couldn't fall over on his side. He nuzzled
his little head up against my chin as I stroked his beautiful face. Then he
would go back to sleep. Around midnight I sat down next to his cage again to say
goodnight and started
whispering, "Shhhhh, sweet little baby, sweet" over and over. He woke up
and hobbled to the front of the cage to be close to my face. He kept moving closer
and closer until he was too near the edge of the cage. He needed my hand to rest
his head against. I thought that he might have been
asking me to rock him again, and I was right. I rocked him for another hour,
stroking his crest, cheeks and under his beak. He would sleep a little, then wake up and look at
me. I tried offering him
seeds, pellets, corn muffin, crushed graham crackers, crushed egg biscuits and
other foods. He took a few nibbles of the corn muffin then went back to sleep.
After putting him back inside of his cage, I made a fresh batch of rice for him,
but by the time it was ready, he was in the back corner of his cage, sound
asleep. He hasn't eaten in over 24 hours and this is breaking my heart. It's now 3
AM Saturday and I want to be with him if he passes away tonight. I'm wondering
if the angels heard Mama yesterday when he tugged on the fabric angels hair and
if they are trying to guide him back home. now
Saturday
Dec. 5, 2009-The angels did not hear Mama's call and he's still with me
sleeping soundly. He woke up at noon and took a sip of water then went
back to sleep. Around 2:00 PM-Mama woke up and ate a few grains of cooked rice
and some crushed egg biscuits. He ate a few seeds then hobbled up to the front
of the cage again, which I now know means he wants to come out and be rocked. I
sat in my rocking chair and Mama slept for 3 hours. I thought I heard him make
the death rattle sound, a gurgling in the throat, moments before death, but he
rested comfortably on my chest, nuzzled under my chin, breathing normally.
I had to put him back inside of his cages because my back was aching terribly.
As soon as I placed him in his cage, he drank 2 more sips of water then
retreated to the back corner, only to fall over on his side. I picked him up and
he hobbled back to the front corner where his mirror is. He has more support
there because his right side is being supported and held up by a cuttlebone
that's against the cage bars. He tried to eat pellets but kept dropping
them. So I put the pellets in the food processor and crushed them. He started
eating the little crumbs immediately. When he was finished, I took a pillow case
and rolled it into a small "baby crib style bumper" and placed it next to his
left side so he could lean on it for support. He tucked his head into his neck
and went back to sleep. About an hour later he started banging his bell
toy---obviously telling the that the bumper was annoying him. I removed it and
he hobbled back to his dish of crushed pellets and ate a little more. Thank God
he ate something today. Knowing that the baby you love is hungry, is a horrible feeling. A few hours later he was
back at the open front door. Because I was making Mama and Cookie's dinner, I
had to close his door so he wouldn't fall out of the cage. He started crying and
I knew what that meant--another 2 hour rocking session. His use of body language
simply amazes me. I rocked him on and off until after midnight, each time he
came to the front of the cage door so I knew he wanted to be held. As I held him
with one hand, he nibbled his crushed pellet and seeds from the little crock
that I held in the other hand. The last thing he ate before I put him back
inside of his cage, was a teaspoon of mashed peach pie, served from my
lips--lips to beak feeding. Tomorrow I'll make him homemade noodles from flour
and eggs, and I'll add his crushed pellets to the mixture before cooking.
Monday
Dec. 7, 2009-This photo was taken yesterday and yes, Mama did enjoy the
homemade pasta. Mama now runs to the edge of
his cage door as soon as it's opened. You can see how his paralyzed right foot
curls into a ball. Mama's spirit and determination have not been broken. He is
learning how to adjust and compensate for his disability and he surprised me by accomplishing
the seemingly impossible around midnight. Mama has been trying to climb up to my
shoulder and perch on to my hand for a month now. My precious, strong willed little
fighter managed to climb up to my shoulder while I was rocking him. There was a
pillow in back of my head so he had something to lean against. He also climbed
onto the palm of my hand, with a little help from me, moving his lame leg. He
was able to balance in my palm and rest as long as he wanted to. I kept my
other hand near him in case he lost his balance, but my hands were more shaky
then he was. After rocking him most of the day, I carried him over to my
kitchen chair where the computer is. He rested in the palm of my hand, looking
re-vitalized, healthy and so alive. He did not want to go to sleep last night.
Each time I put him back inside of his cage, he would eat more crushed pellets
then "run" to the cage door. If I opened the door, he kept bending his
head to be pet and he would perch in my hand again. I guess it was a magical
night for both of us and he didn't want it to end. Eventually I took him
into the family room and laid down on the sofa for 30 minutes. He rested
his head on top of my chin. His feathers felt so soft and warm next to my skin.
I could feel his warm breath on my chin with each breath that he took. I also thanked God again
and again, for this special time with Mama and for giving me the wisdom to
have chosen the smallest bird in the clutch, 15 years ago. I had a long
conversation with Mama as well. I talked and he answered by looking up to me
with bright eyes that were wide open, tilting his head from side. He looked
the way a baby bird looks when looking up to his/her mother. I thanked Mama for letting me share love and
closeness with him for 15 years. I also thanked Mama for letting me know that he forgave me
for any of the mistakes I made during his life and apologized to him for not
always taking him out of his cage when he was climbing on the cage bars begging
to come out. Even though my tears were flowing, yesterday may have been one of
the happiest days that Mama and I have ever had together. Just knowing that he
wanted to be with me and that he wanted me to pet his beak, under his beak, his
neck and cheeks, brought much needed peace, contentment and joy to my
heart. Mama felt this too because he was grating his beak. We were up until 4
AM. If I hadn't pushed myself over the brink of physical and emotional
exhaustion this morning, I would have never had those 4 precious hours
with Mama. I learned one very important lesson about the opinions of some
veterinarians. By one vet's standards, Mama lost his quality of life 2
weeks ago and should have been euthanized. However, the vet did not take into
consideration the qualities of peace and happiness in death that are equally
important. The early morning hours with Mama were a blessing for both of us. I
ordered Mama more Christmas presents last night. He will get them by Friday if
he's still here with me to enjoy them.
Tuesday,
Dec.9 2009-This picture was taken last night when Mama was resting in the
palm of my hand. My husband startled Mama with the camera and Mama moved one leg
onto my shirt for a tighter grip. Mama has been sleeping on and off for the past 36 hours,
being rocked in my rocking chair for several hours and into the early morning
hours. I know when he's hungry because he comes to the front of the cage and
cries if I open the refrigerator door. I made him mashed potatoes last night,
which he enjoyed and ate off of a little plate in his cage. Mama had some
crushed pellets, a piece of a graham cracker moistened in water and some
scrambled eggs early this morning. I'm now making a small kettle of birdie stew
for Mama. The stew had 1 pound of sirloin steak cubes, carrots, celery, turnip,
sweet potatoes, kale, fresh tomatoes and fresh corn (frozen from last Summer) as
well as barley, brown rice, pecans, raisins, millet seeds, 2 cinnamon sticks and
a touch of sugar. When the vegetables were soft, I drained off the liquid then
pureed the food in a mini food processor. Individual portions were frozen in ice
cube trays, then popped out of the trays for freezer storage in a Ziploc
Bags. I can defrost a few cubes each day in the microwave when he's hungry. I
hope Mama enjoys his stew. I keep trying to think of different foods to prepare
for him that are nutritious. Since he seems to love anything soft, moist
and warm, I think he just may enjoy his special stew. Yes!!! We have a winner
and Mama ate his birdie stew. It really tasted very good--of course I tasted it
and I even ate some to show Mama that it was food. I think he would have
preferred it without the millet seeds because he kept spitting them out and
eating around them. Mama also ate more mashed potatoes and more scrambled eggs. He chewed on his cuttlebone, cleaned his beak and then he
played with his new toys. Later on in the evening, Mama started making a new type of cry.
I thought he sounded like he me may have been in pain. I looked into his cage and
saw that his foot was
stuck in a coil of wicker that he had chewed off of his munch ball toy. He slept
for awhile then was wide awake at midnight. He ate cooked brown rice, sunflower
seeds and graham crackers. He looked so alive and alert and he walked back to
his mirror, admiring his reflection. I sang to him and whistled his favorite
songs and he started to chirp. I took him out of the cage and he kept trying to
run up to my shoulder--not a good idea. He seemed much stronger tonight and was
putting up a good fight when I tried to hold him--he was feeling good and he did
not want to be rocked. He let me pet his head for a long time, then he
went to the back his cage to play with his toys. He loves his birdie
Christmas tree that I made and he spent more time chewing on the red and green
munch balls, before he started grinding his beak and falling back to sleep at 4
AM. Mama had a good day!
Wednesday
December 8, 2009-This photo was taken in early
October, when Mama flew to my mom and landed on her shoulder. My mom is the only
other person in the family who EVER pays attention to Mama. So I chose this
photo for today's update. Mama woke up at 5 AM and couldn't get back to sleep. The wind outside was howling and making the doors
to our fireplace rattle. Along with the high winds was a torrential downpouring
of rain. Dawn's early hours were not creating a peaceful home atmosphere.
Mama's crest was in high alert mode. He never had much of a crest, just 3 long
feathers but this morning, for the first time in 15 years, I saw that he had a
beautiful, thick crest. Mama was never fond of crest scritches. He preferred
having the back of his neck stroked instead. Because he has been letting me pet
the top of his head over the past several week, all of the keratin coating on
pin feathers have been removed and the full glory of his crown was now
visible. Mama's also started crying a different cry than when he's hungry. I
wasn't sure if the cause was fear of the storm or pain. I sat with him stroking his cheeks and crest all night until 8 AM. He was still
crying so I gave him a dose of Metacam in case he was in pain. Mama fell asleep
about an hour later when the rain stopped. My morning wasn't great
either. Because Mama has been so close to my face for over a month now, my
asthma started up. Each time the asthma subsided, being near Mama's feathers
caused another attack. I took an anti-histamine, used my inhaler and an hour later I was back in business
with Mama snuggling under my chin. Since Mama had been awake all night, he
slept all day. I used this time to make pierogi for Christmas Eve dinner. Taking
a tip from the Amish, I rolled out the leftover dough into 1/8 inch strips, boiled the noodles and froze individual
portions for Mama. I think Mama may
enjoy warm noodles with soup, tomato sauce or applesauce. Mama woke up about 8 PM and
ate scrambled eggs and some seeds. He was still hungry but he didn't find any of
the foods offered to him appealing. Since he loves homemade pierogi, I
gave him some
potato, cottage cheese filling and he ate all of it. After eating he played with his toys and
at midnight he was hungry again. Another pot of brown rice was cooked
and Mama ate a teaspoon and a half of the rice mixed with my homemade
applesauce. After eating and cleaning his beak on his cuttebone, Mama was ready
for some cuddling. Mama was rocked in my rocking chair as I stroked his cheeks,
crest and neck until 2AM. I was able to check his vent area when holding him and
it was clean. Much to my relief, Mama had been preening and he removed the tiny
traces of dried droppings. When I returned him to his cage, he started grinding his beak
then fell asleep. So it seems like the cause of his crying last night was fear. When I woke
up Thursday morning, Mama was asleep. So I made more Christmas presents for him
with mini munch balls and other natural fibers while he slept.
Thursday, December 10, 2009, Mama slept all day an
didn't wake up until late in the evening. He didn't want anything to eat, even
though I offered him all of his favorite foods. Mama did not look well and I did
not think he would still be here by morning. I gave him the
Christmas presents that I made for him, a Christmas wreath made out of wicker
vines, a Christmas star with strands of beads and munch balls
dangling from the points of the star and a small paper toy, wooden balls wrapped
in acid free colored paper so they look like taffy. By 10 PM, Mama became
too weak to stand and he was falling over onto his side. I picked him up and
rocked him, but he kept sliding down my chest. He started passing huge,
black, tar like droppings. I took a small, fleece throw, folded it in
half, then wrapped Mama so both of his sides and head were supported and to keep
him warm. Even though the heat in our home was set at 72 F, it was windy and the
house felt chilly. After getting Mama wrapped in his blanket, he seemed very
comfortable and content. I rocked him until midnight but by then, my right foot
was swollen from
spending so much time in a rocking chair over the past week, I had no other
choice but to lay down on the sofa. I brought Mama with me and placed his little cradle on my
chest. He slept peacefully with no trouble breathing. Since he hadn't eaten
anything in 24 hours, I did not want him to become dehydrated so started giving
him water with a little sugar from a hand feeding syringe, every 4 hours
during the night. I also gave him another dose of Metacam, even though Mama did
not show any signs of being in pain. When Mama woke up Friday morning, I put his little fleece
cradle inside of a large, oval basket. His little fabric
angels and his Christmas toys were placed in the back. Mama slept in his basket as I worked on editing new photos that I took of him
today
Mama also gave me a Christmas present to remember him by today. (I often
purchase gifts for my birds to give to me at Christmas, it makes the gift very
special to me.) I opened the box from Mama and showed him the beautiful, sterling
silver egg shaped pendant, coated with red resin, (making it resemble an egg
shaped candle apple,) and tiny hearts made out of pave CZs. Mama licked
the red egg so I think he was pleased. When Mama woke up this afternoon, I
showed him his Christmas toys again, and he tried to nibble on the green
cording. Fresh kale and broccoli florets were washed and chopped for him and he
ate some broccoli from my hand. Mama was also offered crumbled bird bread from
my hand and he ate a teaspoon of the crumbs before going back to sleep. About an
hour later when he woke up, Mama tried climbing out of his basket. I took him
out, wrapped him in a cotton cloth and carried him against my chest while making
him scrambled eggs. Mama ate the eggs, struggled to get away from me, then
slowly started walking towards his cage. After putting him back inside of his
cage, he went to the back and nibbled on his cuttlebone. Later on, when we had
dinner, Mama enjoyed a dish of brown rice with applesauce then played with one
of his new Christmas toys. For the past 24 hours, I've been haunted with
thoughts of euthanasia for a bird who is weak and disabled but still comfortable
at home, surrounded by love. As I watch him now sleeping in his cage, with his
head tucked under his wing, my heart tells me that I've made the right choice,
to allow Mama to at least try and pass away at home where he feels secure and loved.
Friday Evening, December 11, 2009. Although taking
care of a sick bird is heartbreaking, it's amazing how there are
moments of unexpected joy. This picture was taken late Friday afternoon after Mama
tried climbing out of his basket and started to eat and walk again. I
think the most difficult aspects of caring for a sick bird, besides coping with
the worry and sorry, are giving medication directly into the beak and trying to
get a sick bird to eat. Late Friday night, Mama was making the crying sound that
I have now come to recognize as a sign of hunger. I boiled a potato in the
microwave, mashed it and added half of a grated apple as well as a little apple
juice for moisture. I knew that Mama wanted to come out of his cage to eat
because
he was at the edge of his cage and trying to climb onto my hand. I took Mama out
of his cage and placed him on the kitchen table, where he ate his apple potato
mix. There should be a book on creative cooking for birds. It sure would be
helpful when you're trying to think of nutritious foods to feed a sick bird.
After Mama finished his potatoes, he walked over to my computer, where he has
played for years. Since bird foods and supplies are now scattered all over my
kitchen counter and kitchen table for fast and easy access when I need them for
Mama, he walked over to a bag of millet seed. Mama hasn't touched millet seed in
days. So I took some of the loose millet seeds from the bottom of the bag and
offered them to Mama from my hand. He ate at least a teaspoon of seeds. Seeing
Mama walk on the kitchen table and eating made me feel as if God had restored my
little angel's health, at least for last night. Mama enjoyed his freedom from
the cage and freedom from being wrapped in a blanket, and strolled around the
table, foraging for food. After putting Mama back inside of his cage, he played
with his toys and ate 2 cubes of bird bread, another food that he hasn't touched
for days then at midnight, another cry for food. He ate more apple potato
mixture and pellets. I'm may finally get a full night's sleep tonight. My little
one is not crying and he's content, grinding his beak.
Saturday, December 12, 2009-Mama
woke up this morning hungry and thirsty. After his usual 2 sips of water, he ate an Avicake and some pellets.
Mama was awake for most of the day so I put up the Nativity scene with the Holy
Family and just the animals. I wasn't going display it this Christmas because Mama was so sick.
However, his remarkable recovery
of strength yesterday gave me the much needed inspiration to do so. I also
put a tiny Nativity scene on top of Mama's cage. Mama became hungry again
in the early evening. I made him a scrambled egg, more potato apple mixture and
took him out of the cage so he could eat on the kitchen table. He took a few
nibbles, walked away from his food dish then stared up at the ceiling light. One
of the toenails on his bad foot was too long and it was getting caught on the
white paper towels lining the cage bottom. Since Mama's right foot and toes seem
to be numb, I was able to hold his toe and trim the nail, by placing one hand
over his back. I also gave him
some sugar water and another dose of Metacam which he didn't swallow, resulting
in a second dose having to be administered. Mama became visibly upset and when I
returned him to his cage he could no longer walk. I felt guilty and thought that
perhaps I had caused this sudden loss of mobility. On a happier note, two of the Christmas toys that I ordered for
Mama arrived today, a big candy cane made out of green munch balls
and red, wooden discs and another paper taffy toy similar to
the one that I made. Later that evening, Mama managed to walk towards the
front of the cage to inspect his Candy Cane and to play with the Christmas star toy that
I made for him. By late evening, Mama's breathing became labored. I sat next to his
cage to talk to him and he dragged himself up to the front door by using
his beak to grasp onto the paper towels. By midnight he was wrapped in his
blanket and resting on my chest again on the sofa. Mama snuggled his head so closely
against my cheek, like a new born baby. When he finally relaxed, his
breathing became easier. I stayed with him all night long but drifted off
into sleep now and then. I had the most terrifying nightmares and all of
them were about Mama. In one dream Mama was suffocating and
aspirating in a bag of pancake batter. In another dream, rats had gotten into
his cage while he was sleeping with me and destroyed his perches and papers. Since
I was sleeping with him, another big NO with birds, one nightmare was about me
falling on top of him and crushing him to death. My husband kept coming into the
room to wake me up because he said that I was screaming in my sleep. I
put Mama back inside of his cage at 9 AM Sunday morning and he drank some water. I broke down sobbing to my husband. Mama is truly like a human infant, now more
than ever. I always knew how much I loved Mama and he has given me much more
love and happiness then I deserve. Now this little baby has taken possession of
the inner depths of my mind, heart and soul unlike any human being has ever
been able to do. Maybe this place in the heart is reserved for mothers who have
sick children or children with grave medical conditions, for mothers who live
each day with special needs children and for women who are the loving caretakers of
another ill loved one. It's a gift from God that helps women to care for their children
and loved ones so selflessly despite being so weary. Maybe God also gives this
gift to those who love their pets as if they were children too. This is truly
the death of one of my children. Mama is my precious baby and I'm losing him. If
anybody had the audacity to say to me, "It's just a bird", I would slap
them in the face.
Sometimes ignorance can not be ignored and for lack of better words, "Actions
speak louder than words."
Sunday December 13, 2009-Although Mama is disabled and sleeping all day long, his will to survive continues to be strong.
He woke up on Sunday morning, drank water, then he slept all day. He only woke
up once and that was for more water. Mama did not want me to interact with me
today and he did not cry for my attention. I gave him a
few kisses on his head and stroked the back of his neck, but my affection went
unnoticed by Mama. Mama just tucked his head under his wing and went back to
sleep. At this stage of his illness sleep is a blessing. I discontinued
administering Metacam as well as the sugar water to Mama today.
Restraining him and prying open his beak were too upsetting for him. He doesn't need
the additional stress now that his breathing has returned to
normal. Around 9 PM Sunday night, Mama woke to drink more water and to eat. I
offered him mashed potatoes with apple juice. After taking a few nibbles, Mama
went back to sleep. A brief 10 minute nap gave him the
energy he needed to eat more of the potato mixture. Mama continued sleeping then waking up
and eating until 3 AM Monday morning. He ate quite a bit because he had now
gone without food for 24 hour. Mama ate red and white loose millet seeds,
safflower seeds, pellets and bird bread that contains fruit flavored pellets,
sweet potatoes and apple juice. After eating, Mama dragged his tired little body
to his new candy cane toy and chewed on the green munch balls. I'm so glad that
Mama is enjoying all of his new toys and glad that I ordered them for him even though
he's sick. I want him to enjoy each day of his life. When I see him
enjoying his food and toys I can celebrate each day of my precious
baby's life with him until the very end. After playing with his candy cane toy,
(part of the toy can be seen next to his plate) Mama wanted to come out
to be with me. I lifted him gently and he rested in the palm of my hand. As I
stroked the back of his neck and kissed his head he fell asleep. Since it was
almost 3:30 AM, I gently placed Mama back inside of his cage next to his toys
and he slept through the night until noon the next day.
Monday December 14, 2009, Today was
actually a fairly good day for Mama. He continued the same behavior pattern as
last night, napping and eating throughout the day. His preference for foods
today included crumbled bird bread, pellets, millet seeds, some broccoli and the
homemade noodles that I made for him last week in homemade chicken soup. Mama's
mobility has continued to worsen. Because of his lame right foot he was
now having trouble resting. He didn't like the folded pillow case bumper that I
gave him last week so I needed to find another option to support his right side.
Then I remembered my son's tooth fairy pillow that was purchased at a craft show
30 years ago but never used. Since I'm very sentimental and know where most of
my keepsakes are, bingo, Mama had a little yellow pillow to lean against for
support. Mama wanted to come out of his cage today and he napped in the palm of
my hand which was cupped. As I was holding my baby, all I could focus on was how
to help him gain some mobility by using a different type of cage liner that he
wouldn't slip on. His right leg was extending sideways like a chick with splayed
legs. This caused him to slide, lose his balance and topple onto his side when
he tried to walk. I remembered what my avian vet had said when I asked him what
was the best nesting substrate for a nest box to prevent splayed legs in chicks.
White paper towels are usually recommended, but if the parents won't accept the
paper towels, he said a non-slip Rubbermaid type bath tub mat could be used
instead. Besides being non-slip, mats were economical since they could be
sterilized in the washing machine with bleach. I always purchase items that I like
in multiples before they are discontinued. I pulled out a brand new bath mat
from under one of the beds, cut it to fit the bottom of Mama's cage and Mama was
able to stand and hobble again without
sliding. The bath mat gave
him enough traction to prevent his leg from sliding to the side like an
airplane. The only problem encountered was that a rubber mat does not absorb
moisture from droppings. I folded 1 paper towel into
quarters and put a piece where he sleeps. Mama's disability has caused another
problem. He wasn't able to stand high enough to eat out of his food cups. By
using a tiny saucer he was able to reach his food. Accommodating Mama's disability has been a real challenge but
so far, very manageable. After eating dinner, Mama rested then dozed off in the
palm of my hand for an hour. I wish he could have stayed in my hand all night
because it's so much easier for him to rest. He can just relax and sleep without
having to make such an effort to maintain his balance. By 1 AM, I returned
him to his cage where he's safer. My little one fell asleep against his yellow
pillow after grinding his beak. So today was a fairly good day for
both of us and both of our lives became a little bit easier.
Tuesday December 15, 2009- Mama has learned
that sleeping with me is easier and more comfortable. He woke up a half hour
after he had just been placed back in his cage, at 1:30 AM, and wanted to be out
with me again. He rested his tired little legs and feet in the palm of my hand
and fell asleep. After laying down on the sofa, I wrapped Mama in his blanket
and placed him on my collarbone. Mama rested his little head on my cheek and
slept peacefully. Even though my baby is sick, feeling his soft, fluffy feathers
and the warmth of his breathing against my skin is so comforting to me. I slept
too but woke up periodically to make sure he was still comfortably supported and
to give him little kisses. I returned him to his cage for breakfast at 9:30 AM.
Even though Mama's appetite has improved, he's still very thin and weak. He has
been eating his pellets, seeds, crumbled bird bread and other foods that he
enjoys. Since Mama is so sleepy, he eats small portions, naps, then wakes up to
eat more. Later in the afternoon, I checked Mama's vent again which was clean,
but another mass of dried droppings had matted onto surrounding feathers. Mama
had to be placed in a shallow baking dish filled with warm water to soften the
hard droppings. After soaking him, the droppings had to be gently removed by
hand and then his abdomen and tail feathers had to be rinsed under the faucet.
Mama did not have the strength to struggle but he tried his best. He tried to
bite me but the force of his beak had the strength of an infant without teeth.
After bathing, Mama's breathing became very labored again. Without a doubt
this was my fault but the accumulation of droppings had to be removed. I told
Mama about Cookie's bath time frolics and wished that he could
have enjoyed the same pleasure when bathing too. Mama always preferred a light
misting instead. After wrapping Mama in a small, thick
hand towel to dry, he fell asleep while I held him against my chest. Mama was then wrapped in his blanket and placed on the kitchen table. I
asked my husband to sit next to Mama and pet him while I ladled our soup into
bowls for dinner and prepared Mama's brown rice. This is the first time in
my husband's life that he has ever touched a bird. If Mama wasn't so weak and
sleepy my husband would have also experienced his first painful bite. Mama loves people
but the only person who he had complete trust in has always been me.
However, Mama adores my husband and I wish so much that he had interacted
with and loved Mama too. I know that Mama had to have felt rejected by him and this has
saddened me for 15 years now. As we sat down for dinner, I woke Mama up and
offered him brown rice and noodles with chicken broth. He was very hungry and
ate both. Mama slept for the remainder of
the evening and his breathing became more relaxed. Since Mama became sick, I've
lost 12 pounds. If my baby can't eat, neither can I. So
at midnight I defrosted a blueberry muffin for myself. Mama woke up as soon as he heard
the microwave beep and he ate a large piece of crumbled muffin.
Cookie knew somebody had food and food is Cookie's greatest passion in life.
So Cookie woke up and had a midnight snack too. Both birds fell asleep after
eating and a lovely duet of beak grinding. Nothing is more comforting and
soothing to this soul than the sound of my babies grinding their beaks with
contentment.
Friday December 18, 2009-Mama's condition has
remained stable with no significant changes since Tuesday. Keeping his
vent area clean has remained a challenge so his tail feathers have to be wiped
with a soft Kleenex throughout the day. This doesn't seem to
be helping much and droppings keep clinging to his feathers. The muscles
controlling the vent may have become weakened so he is unable to
completely expel them now. On Tuesday I noticed that Mama's pretty light gray
feathers have turned almost black and the color change seems to
have happened overnight. In this picture the color change is
obvious, compared with other photos on this page. This specific type of color change in feathers
is usually associated with malnourishment or an underlying pathology. There's
not much holiday spirit in my home this year. Even our 2 Christmas trees and our
balsam wreath remain out on the deck. Since Mama loves the peanut butter and spritz cookies
that I make each Christmas, I baked a few batches of cookies not a dozen different
varieties, and they were only baked because Mama loves
them so much. Mama enjoyed almost a entire vanilla almond spritz cookie with a candied
cherry in the center this evening. Around midnight he ate a piece
of a peanut butter cookie after eating his seeds, an Avicake and scrambled eggs.
My baby, like most cockatiels, loves junk food, especially sweets, red licorice
being his favorite. Mama never gets junk food and he hasn't had red
licorice in a decade.
Cookie came out of his cage and
joined us for a midnight snack again too. Cookie usually loves his sleep time
and he becomes very agitated, squawking if disturbed, but Cookie loves food
more than sleep. Mama has been sleeping with me for about 6 hours each night so
he his little legs and feet can have a rest from trying to stand all day. I'm
exhausted too and feel like a mom who has been up all night giving a newborn
infant night time feedings or taking car of a sick child. I remember those years
well and thought they were over. Now, 30 years later, I'm doing the exact same
things for my cherished feathered baby. Peeling potatoes for mashed potatoes,
cooking brown rice or scrambling eggs at 3 AM have now become a daily routine.
I'm sure it's the food that has given Mama the strength to stay alive this long.
For years I had prayed asking God for 3rd child but never thought he would
answer my prayers now, as I approach my golden years. There's much credibility
in that old saying "Be careful for what you wish for or you just might get it."
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